It takes a deep sense of commitment to endure and sustain a relationship in the present world.

A human being is an evolving mechanism and we often accept our own evolution, though mostly we’re unaware since it usually happens subtly, organically, unless faced with trauma or specific personal goals, but we deny and reject another’s evolution, especially when it doesn’t align with our life plans and schemes.

Buddha gave the law of impermanence – everything is changing all the time! Yet we humans expect stagnation and rigidity in relationships while craving for adventure, playfulness, mystery, sense of awe.

We love freedom, independence and autonomy yet want connection, intimacy, love, friendship, and companionship.

All these are valid, but we fail to integrate these varied yearnings within ourselves and especially fail to allow them in others, i.e. our companions, friends, family, and professional network.

We so readily discount our failures, attachments, shortcomings, and carry a grand idea of the self but hold others at great scrutinizing measures and punish them for their failures and treat their hardships with impatience. We judge their attachments as unnecessary and unhealthy.

We want an Instagram or Facebook worthy perfect life but reject our and others raw human condition.

In the age of artificial intelligence, we want real intelligence; real love; real emotions served as a social media worthy post!

I think it’s Buddha who said, I looked and looked and discovered I love no one else as dearly and as much as I love myself!

Here, I encourage you to reflect on, not in a negative manner but with openness, with curiosity, and with compassion: